Summer Daze: Musings on blogging, travel and my erratic sex life

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Growing uap naked: A recollected story by Oldman

{This was an original story posted on YMNA2 in 2006}

I have not read all the stories yet but thought I would post a few comments of my own.

As a kid I often heard the comment that a boys body has to breath, along with one of my Dads that there are only two models, your either a Ford or Chev, with different trim levels. Nudity was not something that was really talked about yet my brother and I would get ready for bed when we were younger after supper and instead of putting on pj's like most kid we just stripped. We would then run around until we were put into bed naked. As the younger of the two I cannot remember ever wearing anything in bed, (and this includes sleep over with friends of all ages)I think I went from wearing a diaper to sleeping nude.

My parents were also very casual with nudity. I should also mention that I grew up after the age of 8 in a rural area where everyone seemed to have either a sauna or steambath and sometimes both. I
cannot remember visiting one family that every wore clothing in them.

Although I had no sisters as boys we accepted the fact that girls over a certain age had periods and boys of all ages got hard-ons.  Both were considered nothing to get excited about, they were just the facts of life.

When we lived in the city I swam at the Y during the winter and, of course, at that time all boys swam naked it was one of the policies.

Frequently when we lived in the city and later when on holidays we would go to what would later become a well known nudist beach during the hippy era. When we moved to the country as boys skinny dipping was the norm and often did include girls.

I mentioned once before on a group that most teenage boys had seen their girlfriends naked long before they ever dated of course that was true also for the girls. As a gay male that always knew he was gay long before I ever knew what it even meant I always liked seeing the other guys naked.

When we first entered Jr. high school getting a hard-on while showering was just considered normal. I can say that every kid in my homeroom, we were divided by sex until grade 12, I had seen hard. In later years there was a few guys that had moved into the school I may not had seen completely hard but they were the exception.

Today I cannot understand why everyone is so uptight about nudity. I actually believe a lot of the problems we have with bullying, calling someone gay etc has its roots in the super modest attitude kids have. All guys have a desire to see what the other guy looks like and it does not make any difference if you are gay or straight. It is just a natural curiosity. How does the guy hang, is he cut or

not, just a general curiosity of what does he have under those baggy pants and boxers that make all boys look completely sexless.

I would like to point out that for the last two summers at a lake I spend a few months hanging around and fishing during the summer that a family has spent a good month at both years. Both their boys are
completely at ease walking around naked. I put them the first year at 12 and 14. For us retired folks that make up most of the population of campers or RVs we accept it with no problem.

 The first year there was a younger family and they seemed to be a little uptight at first but seemed to accept it after a couple of days and their two boys soon joined in. It is nice for me to see kids accepting the ways of the older generation. Myself and a couple of other retired guys that still like to go skinny dipping these kids join right in with us with what it should be a completely natural thing.

As my Dad said when I was a kid, there are only two models, you are either one or the other, with a few trim differences, so what is the big deal?

Oldman  -- Been there done that. --
  sunbuns

Baggy Pants and Innocence Lost

When guys' butt and ass cracks are showing it true that the sight is hot or 'cool' -but - at the same
time -- I always just have to believe they are doing so completely innocently that is kind of mindless, without consciousness and so it NOT exact sexy. Because for me, just showing some butt or your crack is something you're likely to see on almost anybody - toddlers, school children, overweight people reaching up or bending over at Walmart, old people, athletes in action or just warming up, as somebody climb into a busy and just about everywhere and while people are doing most anything.

 There are times and cases when this is NOT true so it's when we can accidentally see up the front of guys who typically are wearing baggy pants/shorts (and may also be freeballing (going commando) is when I sit up and take notice and get turned on. Women are obviously NOT going to find it easy to accidentally flash their twats - unless they sort of make a bigger and more obvious show of spreading their skirts .. anyway, by all appearances and by most everybody's admission, women don't see to be as visually stimulated or find looking at body parts as erotic as men do -- not to be too sexist.

 Back to the idea and actual experience of seeing up a guy' s short.... However, when you can see a guy's cock clearly outlined -- the head, corona ridge and all - you just got to know HE knows what's showing and he doesn't give a damn or more likely, he's happy to give others (perhaps especially other guys) a peek at his goodies.

Likewise seeing a guy's cock from a view up the leg his baggy shorts, somehow just really gets me excited to the core -- because I just KNOW he can't really be that naive and innocent about it. I mean - he decided what to wear and what NOT to wear -- I'm all for freeballing -- obviously but I know that my eyes zero in on a live target and his floppy cock or sweaty balls are a hell of a lot more appealing than a hairy butt crack (no offense to those who are and to those who do like to show crack). But this is freeballing -- after all. It's what up front that counts -- or should I is what 'cunts'. P.S. I know that most of these types of photo are just 'posed' but there are times when you get a look up some buddy or total stranger's shorts. When I was a teen, my day had a young college age guy who worked for him on subcontractor jobs
(painting, building on house additions, etc).

He wore cut-off jeans a lot and was really handsome and also took a friendly interest in me (although I was much younger -- I guess he wanted his boss (my dad) to think he was a nice guy but he could have been so friendly for 'other' reasons - that he was always in my day-dreams and later by fantasies -after the time I saw him up on a ladder with his tight bubble butt and hairy legs. Believe you me.. I was hanging around at my dad's job whenever I got the chance (which was not much because I was in school). The guy in this first pic definitely seems to be authentic and his freeballing seems totally innocent or at least he doesn't seem to be aware that his uncut meat is exposed.

 Does anybody else find this type (above) of 'realistic photo' of a real person appealing? I won't say that it is ONLY sexually appealing because it really is NOT just that. In the second photo below the guy (in red shorts) is really hot, but the pic seems totally contrived. It is probably an early pic in a series where this guy eventually does a solo jerk off - that really doesn't do much for me.

Maybe I am getting jaded in my 'old age' and maybe the lost innocence on the first guy's face (and dick) just remind me of what I once had ... I am NOT talking about foreskin.-- but that sense of being innocent and exploring the mystery of your burgeoning feels and maybe your bulging shorts when you think about someone (or somethings... ) and then losing one's innocence, and also the joys and stumbling in learning to know yourself like most all of us went through (mostly in our adolescence -- where it concerned our sexually maturity and the changes in physical body and attraction to other people (str8, gay or bi - as the case may be).

Advice on Making Your Porn Blog Work

QUESTION:  tall whiteboy wrote:
Thanks for posting a link to my blog on your blog A Father's Pride and Joy. That one link has led

  

about 200 visitors to my site over the past month. Feel free to repost more as long as you're linking back to me! I could use the traffic.

Do you have any advice on how to get more people to visit my blog? I'm trying everything I can think of to promote my site, but I haven't had much growth lately. Also, Facebook was one of my best marketing tools, but they deleted my account for linking to "obscene" material. Any advice you can give on what has worked for you would be appreciated by this new blogger!

Thanks and keep up the great work,
Andrew
tallwhiteboy.blogspot.com

RESPONSE: My advice from a would-be non-profit porn blogger

The first point of advice is also a telling reminder: You must not have noticed one major difference in my blogs and yours: none of my blogs has any commercial advertising - (except what Blogger (Google) puts there). It is telling because you didn't even mention that fact.

I think that trying to make money on a blog that is created from stuff we've simply found (on the Internet trash heap) is like trying to earn a living by picking up pennies. (It can be done - if you have to have a volunteer crew of 1000s - smile). That is not the only reason that I am never going to go commercial.

The second reason is that once you do, you become the target of your rivals and of your resources (Google takes a wholly different attitude about what a commercial blogger does and what a personal, private individual does). I won't bother to list the other five reasons why I will not be trying to monetize my blogs.

That being said, here is my wisdom about how blogs become popular (or not) or at least just noticed, please take it with a grain of salt and huge dash of pepper. ( ).
I am not saying mine are popular. However, upwards of 5000 hits a day come to my most visited blogs:
Guys Into CMNM http://guys2ncmnm.blogspot.com
About a thousand hits a day are reached on 2 or 3 other ones.

Advice:
0.0 Be a writer: It helps to think like a writer/editor/publisher - instead of simply a porn smurf (purveyor of XX-rated gay material).
Start acting like one and you'll find it will become easier to make your own blog have the kind of qualities that will attract readership.

0.1 Do your homework. You need to be a good blog/site visitor yourself and also do a fair bit of research on what makes a particular blog appealing. Think about how you found it. Experiment with the various non-commercial apps, widgets, gadgets and tools that you have found on other people's blogs. Then you'll have a better understanding of what's working and what does not.

1. THEME: A specific targeted theme works to attract a certain clientele. Too general and the appeal may (or may not) work. That's the reason I maintain 10 different blogs - most of them are themed: cmnm, public sex or dickflashing, bromance/ straight/curious, interracial, daddy/son,
Asian male, gay travel, my own personal experience & commentary, etc.....

I notice that you put a lot of work into making a single post have a theme. That does add a lot of quality, but it only adds value for readers/visitors who have actually found your blog/site.

It also good to have some writing / text even when you're just wanting to show some grouped / themed porn shots. The Google search engine uses these as 'labels' in order to locate and index the photos. When done consistently, your blog's photos will pop up on Google's (and Bing's) image search when guys are trying to find free porn.

2. CONTENT: Intersperse original blogs entries with copied material.

Original means posts that either you write or when you find something worth re-posting and for which you have permission (even if only implied permission). My readers usually can find (not always true because I don't always have or make the time to do this) on a single page - at least one original post - along with the visual porn reposts that I frequently borrow from Queerclick or JustusBoys. Those sites are commercial porn blogs and they are working as viral advertisers for the various porn producers. So that only benefit by having people like me (or you) repost their stuff AS LONG AS it links back to the porn studios original marketing page (or via Queerclick - which is just pimping it for them). So, in effect, I am pimping for the pimp (and taking none of the credit or revenue).

However, since I also post a lot of amateur nude/gay sex photos and do some original writing or take snippets from other sources (especially where I am a contributor), then there is a balance that appeals to me and, hopefully, to the readers.
 

3. Socialize it: Add various social networks to create layers of linking around people - not just the porn.

A. Because they are themed blogs, I can also create a social networking site around that theme so that readers/visitors get some added valued. It works both ways. Guys who join the themed social networks get to view the blog content as well; that's the usefulness of RSS feeds.
The social networks operate separately but it gives readers/visitors an automatic sense of identity and feeling of community.

B. You can also add social networking apps/widgets directly to the blogs to get the same effect and actually create a loyal fan base. Google's FriendConnect is one of the more popular ones. Oddly enough, most of the people who are 'join' as followers of my blogs using FriendConnect are bloggers themselves - who are also looking to befriend fellow bloggers (kind of a backdoor link up).

C. Twitter does work to bring in visitors. I have created multiple Twitter accounts and use Twitterfeed to post updates to all of each of the Twitter accounts automatically when a new post is made to one of my blogs.

4. Tags are important. Blogger tags are not simply so that a visitor can search your blog archive to find a certain item of interest. Those tags are searchable from Google's main search engine. Therefore, you should use

standard tags whenever possible, and don't hesitate to repeat the main key tag words: gay, porn, nude, cock, suck, fuck, naked, male, men etc along with your more accurate descriptive tags. It is automatic free advertising (as long as you have set your Blogger settings correctly).
 

5. Facebook (and several other large portal type social sites, MySpace, Yahoo, Google other sites (Buzz, Profile, etc... ) can be used effectively WITHOUT posting obscene material.

Many of my blogs (themed) ones also have a Facebook Fan page. I just don't post any material from the blog directly to the Facebook Fan page. Instead, I can post a link (without offending visual images) to my blogs.

Particularly, if you have some alternate identities, you can populate your Facebook Fan page and also get 'their' Twitter updates posted to Facebook. One Facebook Fan page I created got to be popular enough, that I gave over the management and administration to one of the enthusiastic members.

Here is the list of my current porn blogs and the main contributors:

My Blogs	Team Members
Twinkaholic: Addicted to Teen Gays	Brian Sullivan garxon19 Kelly 'Sunbuns' Jo KristianKawika Makahakanoa
Passions of the Hentai	garxon19 Kawika Makahakanoa sullybboi Kelly 'Sunbuns' Brian Sullivan
Guys into CMNM	Tim Jo Kristian David Seefallus Kelly 'Sunbuns'Brian Sullivan
Kelly's Second Life	Brian Sullivan Kelly 'Sunbuns' David Seefallus
Mec a poil	(inactive for RSS only)
A Quiver of Errors and Guilded Loins	Kelly 'Sunbuns' Brian Sullivan David Seefallusgarxon19
A Father's Pride and Joy	Kelly 'Sunbuns' David Seefallus Brian Sullivan
InterRacy	Brian Sullivan Kelly 'Sunbuns' sullybboi David Seefallus
____> 男 Otoko -The Japanese Male	Kawika Makahakanoa sullybboi Kelly 'Sunbuns'
Travels with Sunbuns	Brian Sullivan Kelly 'Sunbuns'
The Spirit is Willing but the Flash is Weak, day and night.	BFlySully David Seefallus Kelly 'Sunbuns'
Uber Horny: guys who want it bad	sullybboi garxon19 Kelly 'Sunbuns' Brian Sullivan

Other blogs:

LiveJournal    See my blogs on LiveJournal at:
    http://sunbunz.livejournal.com/
    http://nudewithclothed.livejournal.com/
Over-Blog  (just started using this one):
    http://seefallus.over-blog.com
    http://guysn2cmnm.over-blog.com
Nibblebit.com
     http://sunbunz.nibblebit.com
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Probably, this response is more than Andrew (tallwhiteboy) expected to get. But with each every email I write, I consider that effort to be worth it IF it leads me to a better understanding and also to be able to write something that I can share with others (for free). Therefore, I made my response one of the posts in my personal blog that you are reading now.

Cheers, and thanks for the stimulating question, Andrew. I hope it will be useful advice in response, and that you will have many more readers for your own blog.
 

Kelly

Posted By hardtwoholed to Uber Horny: guys who want it bad at 12/19/2014 10:13:00 PM