This seemingly simple posting on a site devoted to exhibitionism is definitely a true example of the basic aspects of CMNM experience and not simply male-to-male flashing. (For those of you just learning what CMNM is and the forms it takes, I decided it was time to re-post some critical or key articles that have helped me define the real nature of CMNM. I insist and offer evidence that it is not simply a sexual fetish.
stephen wrote on DickFlash:http://www.dickflash.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=23752
I'm a VERY straight looking and acting Bi guy and LOVE getting seen naked by straight men. I really enjoy having Workmen, Truck Drivers etc see me in the buff. I keep it TOTALLY straight though.
I recently went for a bike ride on a hot day, and came accross a Truck Stop. There was a Truck Driver washing his truck. The area was kinda hidden from the main road. I asked the Driver if there were any taps around to cool off. He pointed one out next to his truck.
I stripped off and had a shower under the hose! He knew i was naked, and it was obvious he didn't care, nor was interested- PERFECT!
I then walked up to him starkers and started chatting while drying off.
I love this sort of thing, nothing sexual- just Blokey nudity!
Anyone else into the same?
Forgive me for crossing posting and now re-posting .... but this CNMN thread was far down the list (and probably NOT going to be read unless it has a 'new' posting)
The above story by Stephen is the kind of non self-gratifying erotic or intimate experience (no or little arousal or orgasmic climax - at least not then - maybe later) is exactly what I've been talking about (on this site and others and my new blog) - as the classic CMNM experience.
I think it comes from a basic need for most (gay or str8 ) males to express intimacy between themselves and other men - - it's not just sexual lust (although it certainly can be and - for some people -- it IS a large part of it - for other (perhaps like Stephen - it is not - it's more social and psychological- emotional) -
So. .CMNM is using 'nudity' to symbolize and actualize this intimacy. Think about it... what could be MORE intimate than bearing your nude body to another guy (clothed or not) - it's a kind of symbolic act - NOT SUBMISSIVE either -' although for some guys it could be )-- but it's like saying: "Hey, dude. I am me - see me as I am and accept me for what and who I am. I want to be your buddy and for you to be mine."
Often times, it is easier for guys to start to really communicate once one of them has 'bared' his soul and his body to his buddy (or even a new friend or stranger).....
We can see this theme repeated over and over again on the different posts on this board....
I know somebody is going to say I'm over intellectualizing - I can agree with that... but no matter how much I 'talk' / lecture - or NOT... it doesn't change the fact that male-to-male intimacy and the lack of it is at the core of what drives us to return to this site and these discussion and to tell our stories and experiences...
Stephen's experience is what I call what I call an 'authentic' CMNM experience
It's not really about flashing, which is a specific kind and more directed or focused sexual experience than the one that Stephen is describing above.
For more info see my blog (or contribute to it):
Guys into CMNM http://guysn2cmnm.blogspot.com